Therapeutic Recommendation: Separating Oneself from Toxic Relationships

Getting away (or over a toxic relationship is different and difficult for everyone. I remember having to first identify there was something wrong. Then I had to figure out for myself what about what was wrong that was actually bothering me. There were definitely triggers, red flags and boundaries breached. When you look through rose colored glasses, the red flags don’t look red. I had to compartmentalize. Meaning, I had to separate a part of me from the part of me that accepted and also overlooked unacceptable behaviors, but not just for me and my role. I had to look at it all. From my childhood to my professional life. There was definitely a pattern. 

I was told “things happen for us, not to us”. Uhhh what? 

I had to work through becoming the survivor, not the “victim”. I took accountability and accepted my role and my role only, in all scenarios. I made the decision within myself after a coming to Jesus moment, that I had to leave but I didn’t know how. I let God work out the details.

[I’ll elaborate more on this in a later blog post 😉 ]